Isn’t God amazing? He always supplies with everything that we need, exactly when we need it. One thing that He has given us is fellowship. (Not that ‘eating’ kind of fellowship either, but thank God for that as well! haha )
Friends are important. Everyone needs at least one good friend. Let’s face it.-We all have our struggles and we all fall short, and we need the help of friends to get us through at times.
However, just as good friends can be a blessing, bad ‘friends’ can be such a detriment to our everyday life, much less our spiritual walk with God. This is why we need to be careful when we are choosing our friends and who we fellowship with. Here is a list of things that may help with what to look for when choosing a friend(s):
1) Fruits of the Spirit -This one is a no-brainer (as are several of them). Obviously, having the fruits of the Spirit at work in your life is indicative of having the Holy Ghost and a close relationship with God.
2) Trust -You need to be able to trust your friends. That is why they are there. You should be able to confide in them and not have to worry that they are going to use any knowledge that they have against you.
3) Accountability -True friends will hold you accountable. (This is not nagging.) If you don’t come to church, they’ll ask you where you’ve been. If you appear to have a nasty attitude, they’ll come to you and ask about you. Now this is not to condemn you, but to help you…and you should let them help you.
4) Concern for the Kingdom/Involvement with the Kingdom -How involved are they in the church? If they aren’t very involved, they probably aren’t right where they need to be. (Now I understand that there are some cases where individuals simply can’t be actually AT the church, helping, as much as they would like to be. That is different.) Whether it is through prayer, fasting, working at the church, etc. They need to be involved. Their concern for the Kingdom is also important. When you are struggling, do you want someone that will help you through it or someone that will tell you that it doesn’t really matter anyway? I know I want someone that will carry a burden for my soul/situation!
5) Holy Lifestyle -Do they live according to the Bible? Do they practice a lifestyle of things that edifying and beneficial? If not, you may want to reconsider being in a closer relationship with them.
6) Focus -Do they bring your focus to God or are they a distraction? A true friend is going to put your relationship (and theirs) with God before their friendships.
Obviously this list is not exclusive and there are other things that should be considered before you become too attached to someone. However, this is a good start.
Everyone needs good friends and I am thankful that I can honestly say that I have good, godly friends.